What Would Others Think Mentality

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Way back when I was in high school, I always felt there’s this invisible hand stopping me every time I try to do something out of the norm.

I always wanted to do things differently on my own…

I don’t know if it’s pride or its just me wanting to be different. 

When I got older, wiser (that’s what I like to think), and more mature, I realised that there was no invisible hand that stopping me from doing what I think I should be doing.

It was all in my head

Like literally, it was all in my head.

Every time I wanted to do something, I subconsciously think what might others think of me and it resulted me not doing the things I loved and I begun to rely on this mentality.

If there was something I wanted to do, I always refer back to this notion

“What would others think?”

And I have been doing this until college and now looking back, I wished I knew better.

It all changed when I decided to build a relationship and a family. 

It was a major decision that I couldn’t let anyone’s opinion control or dictate my decisions.

So I man up and decided to get married with the woman of my choosing and build a family immediately after getting married.

And now we have a very active little boy and I couldn’t be happier.

We are sometimes controlled by this thinking “What would others think?” that we sometimes forget that this is our life, we paint our own picture.

You are the captain of your own ship so take control…

After I decided to make sure that I will not, ever again let other people’s opinions stop me from doing what I think is right and ethical. 

I was happy…

I felt relieved even though sometimes my plan fails just the thought that I was in control over my decisions and my life in general, I couldn’t careless if I fail or succeed I know I will just bounce back and do it again.

Sometimes life can get hard that you need someone to take the wheel for you for just a few minutes and that is why I started relying on God.

He makes everything clear to me, calms my heart and mind.

If you are struggling with the same issue? I pray that you open up your heart to God and let him take control of your ship and guide you to the right path.